04 Jan 2018

The Biggest Contribution Of Ferris Bueller To Humanity

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Hello and good day. My name is Ferris Bueller, and I’d like to begin by thanking everyone for their kind comments and letters about that fun day way back in 1986. Has it really been over 30 years? Wow, how time flies. If you remember, my parents were stuck in dead-end jobs and unhappy with their lives, my friends were set firmly on a course of boredom, and the school faculty obediently went to work every day like cattle. It seemed everyone was stuck in a rut, turning their minds off and becoming just another cog in the giant, boring wheel of life. I decided it was time to inject a little fun, a bit of randomness so to speak, to wake everyone up.

“Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.

You see, most people spend their entire lives living a life bounded by their home, their work and maybe going out once in a while. Nothing ever changes and they never get exposed to new ideas and opportunities. They become jaded, argumentative and unhappy without even knowing why.

You might think I acted obnoxiously, that I manipulated friends, parents, teachers and students like. If that’s what you think, you’d be right. I found, even at that early age, that these people were stuck in their ruts and couldn’t see even the possibility of doing something different. Students go to school every day because that’s what students do. Principles herd obedient kids to school and yell at or punish those who break the rules. Parents make breakfast for their kids and go to work. Everyone plays their part in the big game of life, and before long they find themselves wearing straight jackets, and don’t even remember ever having fun in life. Getting them to change, to see outside their box, sometimes requires a bit of force or rudeness.

None of this had anything to do with so-called “white privilege” or any similar concept (as has been written in many highly-opinionated articles). Sure, the Ferris family had money, but everyone has their own lives and their own set of problems. Each and every person on this planet is a unique individual. Terms like “white privilege”, “racist” and “sexist” are methods used to group people together and degrade them, reducing them to non-human objects.

When you say someone is “racist” or has “white privilege” or another derogatory term of your choice, you reduce them to a label. A person is not a label. They are a human being with complex needs, emotions and requirements. These labels are typically used to shut down a conversation. They are usually said with the meaning “you are a racist, so your opinion means nothing” or “you have white privilege, so you wouldn’t understand.” This closes down any attempts to communicate, find common ground, and resolve any differences.

For many people, life is not easy. You could say they have been dealt a bad hand in life. We all begin life with our body and a blank slate. Our surroundings and the people around us shape our early conclusions, beliefs and reactions. What happens in our early life tends to create filters which we use to view everything else as we get older.

However, filters can be overcome. A black person who has been harmed by white people may, of course, view white people in a hostile, or at least suspicious, light. However, that person can seek out the truth beyond their filters by getting out of their comfort zone, reaching out, having conversations (real ones), and learning. This effort can be very uncomfortable, and some dearly held beliefs may be challenged. But that’s part of growing up.

And that was the idea behind my famous day off in the 1980’s. Get out of your comfort zone, whatever it is, get out into the world and live life. Break the mold, meet people, shake hands, and have some experiences that you’ve been avoiding. This is how you grow. To do otherwise is to be cast in a mold, and that trap gets more difficult to escape from as you get older.

So the advice of Ferris Bueller is simple. Take a day off. Don’t plan it. Just take a day off from life and have some fun. Go meet people of other races, religions and beliefs. Go to the beach and swim in the water, Ride in a roller coaster and go up in a hot air balloon. And if you can’t afford any of that, grab some friends, get some food, and go to the park and have a picnic.

The next time you think about calling someone “sexist”, stop yourself. Instead, take the person side and talk to them.Maybe they are just having a bad day, or they’re relationship just ended poorly. Perhaps they didn’t even know what they were saying. You might find out they are not sexist at all, just another human being with thoughts and opinions all their own. You could have an enjoyable conversation and you might even become friends.Stranger things have happened.

Stop yourself before telling that white guy he wouldn’t understand because of his “white privilege”. Instead, take him aside, sit down, and talk. You’ll find he is a human being, and he will have problems of his own. They will be different problems than yours,of course, but to him they are real and possibly serious. You may even find he’s just another person trying to figure out how to get ahead in this strange, sometimes hostile world.

When that racial or sexist slur comes into your brain, stop, think and don’t say it. Instead, take a look at the person you were about to degrade. If you did say the slur, apologize and shake hands. Then talk to the person. You’ll find out some very interesting things.

In other words, instead of shutting people down y saying they are “sexist”, “racist’, “homophobic”, or have “white privilege”, open up the conversations. Sure, they have an opinion and viewpoint you don’t like. So what? You’re not going to change their mind or any anything better by calling them names. But you might have an impact by treating them with respect and communicating.

Take a day off now and then. It will, at the very least, clear your head. You could even find you want to make some more permanent changes in your life.

And calm down. The other person is probably just as upset or confused as you, and, to them, their problems may be just as significant as yours.

Richard Lowe Jr

Richard Lowe Jr

Owner and Senior Writing at The Writing King
Richard is the Owner and Senior Writer for The Writing King, a bestselling author, and ghostwriter. He's written and published 63 books, ghostwritten 20+ books, as well as hundreds of blog articles.
Richard Lowe Jr

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